DO LOVE AND PAIN GO HAND-IN-HAND .... ?
- BK Shivani -
Love and pain are two emotions that touch or move us in life. Both are our inner creation in response to circumstances. With constant ups and downs in life both love and pain seem like addictions, as we almost always feel either loved or pained.
There are 3 deep and wrong belief systems about love and pain, that we need to examine:
#1: "LOVE HURTS."
Love can never harm us. People who do not love us back can harm us, but not love. Losing a loved one can be painful. Separation can be painful.. Being lied or betrayed can be painful… but many people feel love is painful. They even decide never to love again. True love never hurts, it only heals.
#2: "WE OBVIOUSLY ARE PAINED WHEN A LOVED ONE IS DISTRESSED."
Consider the example of young child who meets with an accident. Being in tremendous pain and fear he could be crying for hours or days. At that time how would he want his parents to be? To weep along with him and add to his insecurity? Or a strong, stable and brave parent cheering him as - "We understand your pain. We are always with you. The best doctors are healing you. Just see how quickly you are recovering. You are the bravest child..."
#3: "LOVING SOMEONE MAKES ME POSSESSIVE AND WORRIED FOR THEM."
Attachment makes us possessive or worried. Love lets people be who they are. Pure love vibrates at such a higher frequency where lower energies like pain, fear, anxiety and insecurity cannot reach. At a time, either love can exist or pain - not both..
It is important to get our belief systems right because once we adopt any belief, the very way we live will change considerably.
Few minutes of consciously creating thoughts of forgiveness and love daily will heal all past wounds.
"I am a loveful being.. I understand that everything that happened in the past was a consequence of an earlier karma. I forgive them and myself for the pain created. I release all that I was holding onto ... let go ... let go ... let go. I radiate love to all who are part of that karmic account."
DO LOVED ONES HURT YOU THE MOST?Love can never harm us. People who do not love us back can harm us, but not love. Losing a loved one can be painful. Separation can be painful.. Being lied or betrayed can be painful… but many people feel love is painful. They even decide never to love again. True love never hurts, it only heals.
#2: "WE OBVIOUSLY ARE PAINED WHEN A LOVED ONE IS DISTRESSED."
Consider the example of young child who meets with an accident. Being in tremendous pain and fear he could be crying for hours or days. At that time how would he want his parents to be? To weep along with him and add to his insecurity? Or a strong, stable and brave parent cheering him as - "We understand your pain. We are always with you. The best doctors are healing you. Just see how quickly you are recovering. You are the bravest child..."
#3: "LOVING SOMEONE MAKES ME POSSESSIVE AND WORRIED FOR THEM."
Attachment makes us possessive or worried. Love lets people be who they are. Pure love vibrates at such a higher frequency where lower energies like pain, fear, anxiety and insecurity cannot reach. At a time, either love can exist or pain - not both..
It is important to get our belief systems right because once we adopt any belief, the very way we live will change considerably.
Few minutes of consciously creating thoughts of forgiveness and love daily will heal all past wounds.
"I am a loveful being.. I understand that everything that happened in the past was a consequence of an earlier karma. I forgive them and myself for the pain created. I release all that I was holding onto ... let go ... let go ... let go. I radiate love to all who are part of that karmic account."
Each of us is an embodiment of divine love and that love is meant to be shared unconditionally. Life is about sharing it - loving our body, loving oneself, loving others, loving God, loving nature, loving our work…. That energy of love in the end purifies us and helps us transform.
But if we link love with fear or suffering, flow of pure love gets blocked. We worry, we suffer and we become afraid. In this depleted state of mind, we cannot help either the right way or to the right extent. Our negative vibrations constantly radiate to the person, although physically we might be doing a lot for them. We tend to stifle or control him and they soon feel dominated.
If we review our personal life, we are likely to have experienced most pain from loved ones. Such an unexplained pain occurs when there is an energy of possession, control, submission and dependence either radiating from us or from them. Note that none of these 4 qualify as pure or divine love.
We look up to a few people as a blessing in life. They love us, help us, support us and serve us in so many ways that we feel emotionally indebted.. But for some reason if we part ways, we blame that our immense love is not letting us overcome the pain of separation. This is not true. Separation whether by death or any other reason is purely a karmic outfall. Every soul stays with us for a fixed duration depending on our karmic account. So, we need to continue radiating pure love to each other, with the right understanding.
AN UNFORGIVING MIND
The key to peace in relationships is forgiveness. At times people in close relationships like a spouse, sibling or friend say something that we find unpleasant or offensive. And how many of us have heard, read and believed that it's very difficult to forgive and forget that person for what they said? Even other family members who love us so much say obviously we cannot forget so we keep saying "I can't forgive or forget what they said." Every time we reaffirm as I cannot… I cannot…I cannot, it is a message to the mind. Soon the mind learns "I cannot"…and then it cannot forget.
"I am a loveful soul. I prioritise harmony and happiness over my ego. I do not entangle with people who are disturbed. I put across my opinion but withdraw from arguments and conflicts. I live the truth but do not need to prove. I radiate pure vibrations so that they can raise their frequency, I do not lower my frequency to prove myself right."We look up to a few people as a blessing in life. They love us, help us, support us and serve us in so many ways that we feel emotionally indebted.. But for some reason if we part ways, we blame that our immense love is not letting us overcome the pain of separation. This is not true. Separation whether by death or any other reason is purely a karmic outfall. Every soul stays with us for a fixed duration depending on our karmic account. So, we need to continue radiating pure love to each other, with the right understanding.
AN UNFORGIVING MIND
The key to peace in relationships is forgiveness. At times people in close relationships like a spouse, sibling or friend say something that we find unpleasant or offensive. And how many of us have heard, read and believed that it's very difficult to forgive and forget that person for what they said? Even other family members who love us so much say obviously we cannot forget so we keep saying "I can't forgive or forget what they said." Every time we reaffirm as I cannot… I cannot…I cannot, it is a message to the mind. Soon the mind learns "I cannot"…and then it cannot forget.
The mind replays the scene repeatedly and strengthens that experience in our mental register. It is like an action replay of a cricket match. We see the replays from different angles and keep judging the person. Memories and the experiences associated with the memories replayed continuously in the conscious mind enter the sub-conscious, so we remember the other person's words for months, even years. The other person however would have long forgotten the incident.
It is like a neighbour who throws the trash from their house into our compound and forgets about it. But we keep looking at it and get disturbed, allowing the trash to remain there without clearing. Is it wise? When soul power is less we accumulate resentment and suffer a great deal. But if we are powerful by practicing meditation or with spiritual knowledge, the mind learns to let go naturally and quickly. The pain will not be a part of our internal conversation. Even if somebody has wronged us, harmed intentionally or introduced an obstacle in our life - whatever they have done - we will be able to forgive.
Like a tortoise gets into its shell, we also can withdraw from a scene of negative energies. We can be with people but internally withdraw from the attachment to prove our self. Ego to prove our self right only depletes happiness and health.
It is like a neighbour who throws the trash from their house into our compound and forgets about it. But we keep looking at it and get disturbed, allowing the trash to remain there without clearing. Is it wise? When soul power is less we accumulate resentment and suffer a great deal. But if we are powerful by practicing meditation or with spiritual knowledge, the mind learns to let go naturally and quickly. The pain will not be a part of our internal conversation. Even if somebody has wronged us, harmed intentionally or introduced an obstacle in our life - whatever they have done - we will be able to forgive.
Like a tortoise gets into its shell, we also can withdraw from a scene of negative energies. We can be with people but internally withdraw from the attachment to prove our self. Ego to prove our self right only depletes happiness and health.
Your Divine Friend
Satya
Satya
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